Ladies, HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!

Lately I have been reading, he's just not that into you, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I have never been one to buy self help books or dating books, but I must say that this "no excuse book to understanding guys," is my new bible. That is a bit of an exaggeration because I do not agree with everything the book suggests, but I have found that men make more sense. To sum it up, any excuse a woman gives for a guy's lacking qualities results in the conclusion that "he's just not that into you." After reading all the questions that women have submitted to Greg I can see that they will go to great lengths to deny themselves the truth, and that truth is, "he's just not that into you." I am not above making excuses as to why someone didn't like me because who wants to admit that to themselves? I sure don't, but sometimes facing reality helps you move on and recently it has helped me to move on.

After a tumultuous relationship/friendship/datingship I tried to try again with him only to find out that, he just wasn't that into me. People give excuses about being too busy, or being scared to love again after being hurt or even not wanting things to get complicated again but that is all codswallop in my opinion. If you really like someone, want someone, care for someone then no lack of time nor fear of being hurt will stop you because you know that that person is worth all of it. So after my re-attempt and failure at trying to convince someone I was worth it, I took a deep breath and carried on. I know I deserve to be happy and have someone who wants to get to know every bit of me and spend time with me as much as they can. It's a shame it wasn't him. In the past I would've been mopey and sad, but now I am just ready to say, "NEXT!" I don't mean to insinuate that I go through men like I go through diet cokes, I just mean I am not going to worry about it. I want happiness and if I meet someone while on the road to being happy then great, but I surely won't spend my time feeling like I am not enough. I am enough and even more.

One more thing, I have used and abused myself in the past because I didn't grow up thinking I was worth anything. I am here to let you know that your past is just a state of mind and each day you can change how you're going to live your life. You don't have to be that ugly person from the past, you can be pure again if you truly want to be.